Frozen has been responsible for igniting discussion on cultural dynamic shifts. Multiple debates on how it sends it’s target audience messages that directly opposes Disney’s past formulas for story telling.

One theory is that it sends the empowering message that a girl does not need a man to save her. Anna is the one in the very end that ends up running to save her sister rather than heading out for a kiss from a man that could save her life.

Another is that the profound statement “You can’t marry a man you just met” injects reality into a typical fairy tale scenario, and challenges girls to alter their thinking when it comes to love and make smart decisions. You are no longer correct in thinking that once you meet your Prince Charming, you marry him right away for the “happily ever after.” You have to get to know him, build a friendship & then a relationship.

I call “bullshit” to both those scenarios. Disney has done nothing profoundly different in it’s story telling. Anna is stricken with a deadly ice spell and needs Kristoff to get her home. [A man needs to save her.] Anna and Kristoff meet his troll family, the “love experts,” they try to marry them right away. …Ummm, didn’t she just meet him that day?

What really bothers me about this movie, and the biggest take-away message that I get, if you have an abnormality, something unique, something that is different about you & makes you special, it’s perfectly acceptable to “conceal it, don’t feel it, don’t let it show.” Really?! You have something that other people might call you names for, outcast you for something that you cannot control and because they don’t understand it and it’s ok for your parents to encourage you to hide it?

That is such old-school, self-esteem deflating, parenting to me. Let’s take a hundred steps back from encouraging our kids to be who they are, accept their differences and live a happy life. Bethany Hamilton, you’d better hide your shark bite. GLADD, everyone back into the closets. All women’s clothing will be made in size 8 and smaller, no short or tall pants. No more wheelchair accessibilities. If you have any face or body part deformation, we’d prefer you to stay locked in a room for life.

Here’s how I would rewrite this story, if people truly are inspired by the aforementioned messages;

Elsa’s parents take her to the trolls as a young child to help her understand and train her on how to control her magic. They are able to win over the judgmental people throughout the town with her charitable, lovable personality, snow cones and icicle pops. (People love Elsa for who she is and not her abilities.)

The girls live a socially balanced life and build a strong friendship over the years. (Sisterhood) Global warming sets in, and Elsa is able to restore balance with her magic and saves the world. (Girls don’t need guys to do great things)

No mention of marriage – why go there? There isn’t enough timeline to develop that part of the story.

….oh yeah, and the ice businessmen notice that there is a little orphan kid running around and get him into the proper foster care.

Disney will perhaps someday create a story that causes zero controversy in our changing society and opposing viewpoints. Until then, I’ll let my daughter enjoy her movie for however she perceives it, and “let it go.”